The Kid

The Kid

What Happened After My Boyfriend and I Decided to Go Get Pregnant : An Adoption Story

Book - 1999
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Baker & Taylor
A popular sex-advice columnist offers a celebratory and incisive memoir discussing his decision, as a gay man in a long-term relationship, to adopt a child, creating problems with conservative groups, his own friends, adoption agencies, and a drug-addicted birth mother. 15,000 first printing.

& Taylor

Describes the events leading up to Terry and Dan's adoption of D.J., including their relationship with D.J.'s birthmother, the birth, the reaction from friends and family, and the joy of bonding with one's son

Publisher: New York, N.Y. : Dutton, c1999
ISBN: 9780525945253
Characteristics: 246 p. ; 23 cm


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Aug 22, 2013

If I had to say my favorite thing about the recent surge in audio book publishing, it’d be the reboot of beloved backlist titles that you couldn’t have listened to five years ago. This summer, Penguin Audio has given us the gift of Dan Savage reading his 1999 tale of adopting a kid with his then-boyfriend (now husband) Terry Miller. In the same confrontational yet lovable voice that has made him a renowned sex columnist and founder of the It Gets Better project, Savage writes frankly about their experiences navigating the open adoption process as a gay couple in the nineties. It’s an entertaining and emotional story, made even better by Savage’s excellent new narration. When done well, I’m such a sucker for people reading their own memoirs to me on audio. Savage nails it! Best yet, he tells you all the stuff “they don’t tell you” about adoption, making this a legit reference tool for anyone who’s got babies on the brain.

Jan 03, 2012

This book is written with honesty, respect and clarity. I am thankful for this story.

fillups Dec 31, 2010

Wonderful book by sex columnist Dan Savage (known for Savage Love). How does this decidedly unsentimental guy move towards raising a child with his partner.

The adoption process itself is full of unexpected twists but what it does to the couple is even more intriguing.

A recommended book for all people considering adopting for its unvarnished view of the bureaucratic and emotional process.


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